Abuse refers to a behavior which is designed to control or subjugate another person through verbal, fright, humiliation and bodily assault. Emotional abuse counseling is aimed at assisting individuals affected by any kind of abuse perceived to be causing emotional pain. Such strategies helps individuals faced with abuses ranging from constant criticism to verbal abuse to other behaviors such as intimidation, manipulation and refusal to be ever pleased.
It is like brain wash that is, systematically wearing away at the self-confidence of the victims, sense of worth, self concept and trust in their attitudes and perceptions. Whether this is done by constant intimidation, belittling and berating or under guise of teaching, guidance or advice, the results are often similar. In most cases the recipient of such abuses loses all sense of self as well as remnant of personal value. This psychological torture cuts to every core of a person thereby creating scars which are far deeper and more lasting than physical ones.
This kind of abuse can be categories into the following three dimensions. That is manifestation in abusive behavioral patterns such as denying, aggressive and minimizing
For instance, abuser may assume the top position through attempting to judge or validate the victim and undermines their equality and autonomy which is essential for building a health relationship pattern. In most cases parent to child communication takes this types of aggression.
The first form of denying occurs through invalidation that is when the abuser seeks to undermine or distorts the perception of the recipient about their world. For example when the victims confront the abuser of about name calling incident, the abuser may insist that he never said that and unaware of whatever is being said among others.
A form of denial is often known as invalidation that is the abuser tending to undermines and distorts the emotions, perceptions and attitudes about the world around them. This is witnessed where a victim may confront an abuser about a happening of name-calling. The abuser may deny the incident and pretend that they are not conscious of the situations being discussed. Another form of denial is withholding. In this happening, the abuser may decide to refuse to communicate, refusing to listen and emotionally moving back as a punishment. This strategy might also involve countering where she or he imposes opinions on the victims and denies opinions which are against theirs.
Another form of such incidences is withholding. This can be witnessed in a situation where an individual refuses to communicate, emotionally withdrawing or refusing to listen as a punishment. Such actions are referred to as the quiet treatment by psychologists. The abuser might opt to use countering, where he or she views the victim as their extension and denies any opinion that is against theirs.
Trivializing also occurs when the abuser suggest that what is done or said by the recipient in unimportant or inconsequential. This is a subtle type of minimizing. Minimizing and denying can be damaging. In addition to creating conflict, lowering esteem and not validating reality, experiences and feelings can lead people questioning and mistrusting their emotional and perceptions of experiences of the victims.
It is like brain wash that is, systematically wearing away at the self-confidence of the victims, sense of worth, self concept and trust in their attitudes and perceptions. Whether this is done by constant intimidation, belittling and berating or under guise of teaching, guidance or advice, the results are often similar. In most cases the recipient of such abuses loses all sense of self as well as remnant of personal value. This psychological torture cuts to every core of a person thereby creating scars which are far deeper and more lasting than physical ones.
This kind of abuse can be categories into the following three dimensions. That is manifestation in abusive behavioral patterns such as denying, aggressive and minimizing
For instance, abuser may assume the top position through attempting to judge or validate the victim and undermines their equality and autonomy which is essential for building a health relationship pattern. In most cases parent to child communication takes this types of aggression.
The first form of denying occurs through invalidation that is when the abuser seeks to undermine or distorts the perception of the recipient about their world. For example when the victims confront the abuser of about name calling incident, the abuser may insist that he never said that and unaware of whatever is being said among others.
A form of denial is often known as invalidation that is the abuser tending to undermines and distorts the emotions, perceptions and attitudes about the world around them. This is witnessed where a victim may confront an abuser about a happening of name-calling. The abuser may deny the incident and pretend that they are not conscious of the situations being discussed. Another form of denial is withholding. In this happening, the abuser may decide to refuse to communicate, refusing to listen and emotionally moving back as a punishment. This strategy might also involve countering where she or he imposes opinions on the victims and denies opinions which are against theirs.
Another form of such incidences is withholding. This can be witnessed in a situation where an individual refuses to communicate, emotionally withdrawing or refusing to listen as a punishment. Such actions are referred to as the quiet treatment by psychologists. The abuser might opt to use countering, where he or she views the victim as their extension and denies any opinion that is against theirs.
Trivializing also occurs when the abuser suggest that what is done or said by the recipient in unimportant or inconsequential. This is a subtle type of minimizing. Minimizing and denying can be damaging. In addition to creating conflict, lowering esteem and not validating reality, experiences and feelings can lead people questioning and mistrusting their emotional and perceptions of experiences of the victims.
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